You want to justify it
It’s only natural to want to think of the reasons you were in the relationship in the first place. If you can only recall the bad things, that can really have you questioning your judgment in partners. And, of course, there were good things. Something drew you into that union in the first place. Matthews says there’s a reason your brain returns to the good times when reminiscing on a relationship. “This is the brain’s way of helping you make meaning of the break-up.” When you’re wondering, “Why the hell did I get into that in the first place?” your memory is ready with the answers.