You don’t want to admit you accepted less
Matthews also mentioned that it’s common, after a bad breakup, to deny the negative events that went on, or at least to minimize them. If you are, all in all, a confident and strong person who feels worthy of good love, it might be difficult to admit that you tolerated less than that…and possibly did so for a long time. It’s a strike to the precious ego to recognize, “Maybe, for a while, I didn’t assert the confidence and worthiness I hope to embody.” Admitting that you accepted some rather bad treatment is not easy, so it’s understandable that some don’t want to see that. As a result, says Matthews, you might tell yourself it wasn’t all that bad.