So if you can’t date yet, then what?
Impulsive spending, over-eating, over-drinking, these are probably not the healthiest ways to “process” a breakup (you’re not processing at all when you do them, hence the parentheticals). But you’re going to want to do them, really badly, so you need an alternative. “I’m an advocate for therapy and taking a timeout on dating,” Matthews says. “Journaling, mindfulness, and finding new interests are all good ways to re-center and learn what is important to you.” Taking the time to do that now can prevent repeating mistakes, and even help you learn when to get out of a bad relationship sooner, next time — if there is a next time.