How Unhealed Wounds Hold You Back
Feeling like you must give to be loved
Holcomb explains that some individuals may have had experiences that ingrained in them the idea that they are only as valuable as what they can do for others. As such, boundary issues can occur, which Holcomb describes as, “Merit-based measures of obtaining approval, validation, and affection such as saying ‘yes’ to behaviors, activities, and treatment that one does not want to accept.” She says they accept these treatments anyway because they believe it could “Lead to friction or a breakup if they express their authentic feelings.”