Why You Can’t Have (Healthy) Love Without Self-Love

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You can take things less personally

“When you love yourself more, it helps you to take other peoples’ actions less personally. So you’re no longer stuck in a trigger/shame spiral,” says Hogi. “So for instance, you have an argument with your partner. You can just deal with what the issues are in the argument, versus [jumping to] ‘They don’t think I’m good enough. Now I’m triggered because I’ve always felt I’m not good enough because I’m not loveable and now there’s the shame fog.’ Who cares what the argument was about because now you’re triggered and you’ve blown it up into these much deeper beliefs that you have.”

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