Rejection can cause some of the nastiest feelings. Rejection can be embarrassing. It can be painful. It can be very dejecting, leaving you feeling like you don’t want to go after anything ever again. Whether it’s romantic rejection, career rejection, or social rejection, rejection never feels good. The very nature of rejection means that you put yourself out there—you made yourself vulnerable, putting the power in somebody else’s hands—and you didn’t receive the warm welcome for which you’d hoped. The other person or company or thing didn’t want you as much as you wanted them. It stings. When our pride is hurt, we can be driven to do some dumb things. But, as you grow more mature, you’ll find that rejection is actually an opportunity to grow if you handle it correctly. Here are mentally healthy ways to handle rejection.
Don’t react immediately
Take a deep breath and do not react immediately. Whatever that first thought is in your head—don’t vocalize it. Don’t even vocalize the first ten thoughts. A simple, “I understand. Thank you for letting me know” is a great reaction in most rejection situations. It gets you out of there in a respectful manner, so you can regroup.