Trying to change someone
You meet someone who checks a lot of boxes for you, but there is one thing that doesn’t work for you. Maybe he’s not as ambitious as you’d like. You think he’s cute and funny and affectionate. You like his friends. The sex is great. You just wish he had bigger goals. So you decide to take him on as a project. You’ll find him classes to take. You’ll make professional introductions. You’ll find networking events for him to attend. But look: you can’t create a fire in somebody that isn’t there. If he doesn’t want this change for himself, it will never fully take hold. You’ll wind up exhausted and resentful, even though he showed you who he was from the start.