Sacrificing self-care leads to codependency
“Make sure you prioritize yourself,” Howard advises. For her, first thing in the morning, she meditates, exercises, and journals. As she puts it, she “Feels herself: mind, body, and spirit” and then she faces the world. “If you face the world empty, you become needy. Then you look for fulfillment in others and look for others to fill your cup. But that’s not their job. Then you ignore warning signs of a toxic relationship. You keep ignoring that because you are so empty. Then just the little bit you get from that other person is feeding you. You become desperately connected to a toxic relationship. Then it’s hard for you to break away. You can’t see life without it,” she says.