The privacy dilemma
We discussed the boundary of privacy, and that some partners may ask you to agree to not tell outsiders what goes on inside of your relationship. Howard says it’s a common boundary. “They don’t want to have all of these people in their marriage…voicing their opinions,” she says. Whether or not it’s healthy or fair is really a case-by-case thing. But if you are used to talking about friends and family about your relationship, and that’s even a way you feel close to them, this boundary can feel isolating for you. It can make you feel like you can’t be yourself.