Is it about privacy or…shame?
Unfortunately, when someone asks that what happens in the relationship stay in the relationship, sometimes it can be a warning sign. “Whenever you’re dealing with something that is toxic…where you’re feeling depressed…and you’re used to being able to talk to your family and friends, but now you feel isolated and stuck, that can be toxic. That can bring up some red flags,” Howard says. “You want to say, ‘I’m compromising,’ but now you’re not feeling free. You should feel freedom in your relationship. You should be able to be yourself. That should mean you should be free to visit with your family and friends and have loving, fun relationships outside of that romantic relationship you have with that person.”