The Language of Love: How Miscommunication Leads to Complication
8. He says: “You’re great. You’re just like one of the homies.”
You hear: “This is the start of a great relationship. You know friends make the best lovers.”
He means: “You’re like one of the guys. You’re into sports, aren’t too prissy and burp and fart without worrying what I think. While you’re cool, those are also all of the reasons I don’t want to have sex with you.”
It can be refreshing for a man to see his woman keep it all the way real, occasionally. While I don’t recommend holding in every gas bubble until you explode to maintain an image, understand that a part of man’s attraction to you is the visual fantasy. Though they may complain about how long your hair or makeup takes to apply, they really do appreciate all the little details and extra special care you put into being a complete, superficial and at times high-maintenance girl. The important thing is not to fake it. If you know the difference between a running back and a quarterback and can drink the cast of Jersey Shore under the table, be the best homie-lover-friend you can be. Authenticity is always Hot.
