The Language of Love: How Miscommunication Leads to Complication

2. He says: “Really, she’s like a sister to me.  She doesn’t look at me like that.”

You hear: “This is my stand by sex-in-a-glass-case for when you start to act up.”

He means: “She’s hit on me in the past (or we’ve actually hooked up in the past), but I’m not into her anymore and don’t feel like getting nagged every time her name pops up on my phone.”

Even Beyoncé probably gets a flicker of green monster in her eyes when Jay is in the presence of a beautiful woman that he maintains a friendship with.  Even the most confident woman who is secure in her relationship may feel that familiar dull twinge of jealousy when her guy is friends with an ex or childhood friend, and for some reason that twinge can turn into a sharp sting when said friend is attractive, successful and pleasant.  While men will accommodate your feelings in some ways to avoid an argument with you, no man wants to feel like every time a good friend calls, you will unleash all of your insecurities upon him, especially if he isn’t misbehaving.  For that reason, instead of giving you details they will avoid revealing anything that might make you think any attraction exists. Sometimes your imagination is what’s playing tricks on you, not your man.