Ask a Very Smart Brotha: He Got Someone Else Pregnant But Says He Wants to Be With Me

Debra: When you divorce, do you just divorce your spouse or are you supposed to divorce all of your in-laws as well? and mutual friends?

DY: As a person who went through a break up myself last year, that “breaking up with the friends too” is a complicated issue. Honestly, I think it depends on the nature of the break up and the relationship. Staying cool with the in-laws seems kind of extra, but if you had mutual friends while you were together, there’s no law that states you both can’t stay friends with all of them. (Also, people tend to choose sides anyway, so the choice may not even be yours)