How do you bring it up?
If you don’t want to wait until someone crosses a line to draw it, how do you find a natural way to bring up boundaries, early on? Tawwab says that sometimes something you see on TV, or hear from a friend, creates an opening for the conversation. “You can bring it up, like, ‘Hey I saw this thing on TV…someone DMing someone…and I’m just letting you know, my idea of a boundary is not DMing people personal information or pictures.’ The best time to do it is in advance. A lot of times we wait for a violation of a boundary to occur before we say something,” she says.