Why are we afraid to set boundaries?
Setting a boundary typically means building circumstances that are healthier for yourself, so why are people so hesitant to set them? We asked Tawwab this and she said it’s about the reaction of the other party.
“They are afraid other people will be mad at them. We want to be liked and loved and positively regarded by other people,” she says. “It’s true, sometimes setting a boundary can irritate someone. It can make them mad at you. But it can also be healthy for your relationship. It should not really be a big deal. Our fear is really an assumption of what will happen. It’s our worst-case scenario. ‘They won’t talk to me…they won’t invite me to their next thing.’ But it’s important to make sure you are setting the boundary for the health of the relationship.”