f you’re fortunate enough to have plenty of friends and be rather popular, then that also means you receive a lot of invitations. This friend is having a baby shower, that friend is having a birthday party, this other friend is throwing a fundraising event for a charity, that friend is having a reading of her short stories at a local bookstore…If you attended all of these events, you’d never have a moment to yourself. But, the truth is that you love how big your community is. You love that you’ve made yourself such a presence in the lives of so many people that they think of you when creating these guest lists. If it were up to you, there would just be 40 hours in a day and you could do it all. But, that’s simply not the case. You have a job, maybe you have a relationship, and you may even have kids. You also have your relationship with yourself, which is quite important. You can’t tend to all of that and go to all of these events. Some just won’t make the cut. Here is how to choose social events wisely to avoid burnout.
How long since you’ve seen this person?
If you just saw these friends within the last two weeks, then you’re safe to skip this one. However, if you haven’t seen them in months—or half a year—and have had to consistently turn down their invitations, it may be time to suck it up and go. Going more than half a year without seeing a friend can mean the friendship is nearly over.