What about when the boundary is set on you?
When someone sets a boundary on us, it’s easy to feel anxious, rejected, or sad. Tawwab says to ask yourself, “is the boundary reasonable? And is it healthy for this person? If those two things are true, try not to personalize boundaries people have. It’s about their preferences and what makes them feel healthy. I can think of so many boundaries people have set with me that had nothing to do with anything personal. I had an aunt with the boundary, young ladies can’t chew gum. It had nothing to do with me. I didn’t feel like less of a young lady. Just because one person in your life has a boundary with you doesn’t mean it’s about you. It’s likely about them and what they need.”