While continuing his 2020 divorce tour, Ray J stopped by The Real to speak to the ladies about the state of his relationship with Princess Love. During the conversation, the “One Wish” singer was asked about rumors that he didn’t notify Princess before choosing to file to end his marriage.
“No I didn’t,” he said, to which a confused Garcelle Beauvais responded, “Why?” That’s when Ray said a whole lot of things that as whole, didn’t really add up to much.
“Well, I mean, again, when you’re in your own relationship, sometimes you do things spontaneously. Sometimes you move too fast, sometimes you make mistakes,” he said. “I’m not saying that that’s what I did, or I made a mistake — but I don’t know if I did make a mistake. I don’t know. I have every right to just not know and still just try and figure it out. But again, I feel like, if me and her could just be in our own little world together, and just live in our world as opposed to this world outside of it, you know, we’ll just be in a better place.”
Loni Love stepped in to recommended counseling to Ray J, considering that he sounded unsure about what he wanted to do in the end. He said he initially found counseling to be “a hustle” but was open to the idea. She asked him if he wanted to get back with Princess.
“I mean, I just, I want to be with my family,” he responded.
Jeannie Mai, who knows what it’s like to go through a tough public divorce, helped make it plain that there’s a difference between wanting your family and actually wanting to make a healthy marriage work.
“Yes, but I want to know do you want to be married?” she asked. “The kids yes, but you have to have a happy family from a happy, stable, loyal marriage. Do you want a happy, stable, loyal marriage? That’s the happy family part.”
“Yes! Yes! Yes! Don’t beat me,” he joked in response.
At this point, the question is, what does Princess want? As previously mentioned, she was the one who initially filed for divorce from Ray, but withdrew her petition in July to try and make things work. So to find out that he filed online with the rest of us and then to watch him talk about it with everyone else has to be vexing.
Princess isn’t the first person to be blindsided by their partner choosing to end their marriage. Hit the flip for 10 other couples whose divorce was a shock to one of the two parties.
Aryn Drake-Lee Williams
Jesse Williams shocked a lot of people when he filed for divorce from his wife Aryn in 2017 after five years of marriage, two kids and more than a decade together. She said that while it was tough, the divorce filing was a “blessing in disguise.”
“I resisted this for the last 10 years, having a public profile, and then I got dragged into it against my will. It was possibly my worst nightmare,” she said in 2019. “And then it played out, and now I’m better off for it.”
After 11 years of marriage and two daughters, Mechelle Epps said she didn’t see comedian husband Mike Epps’ divorce filing coming when he ended their marriage in 2016. She said she was loyal while he wasn’t.
“It was shocking to me,” she told TMZ photogs afterward. “I didn’t know we were separated since the summertime. We’ve been doing everything a married couple does up until January when I saw him walking down the streets of New York with a mysterious girl. I think that did it.”
When Real Housewives of Atlanta star Porsha Williams and former NFL star Kordell Stewart’s marriage officially ended with divorce in 2013, she reportedly found out the news with the rest of us. She was under the impression that they were working through things.
Her rep said, “[Kordell] misled her and she found out about the filing in the media.”
Another RHOA love story gone sour, Peter Thomas claimed that when Cynthia Bailey went public with the news that they were ending their marriage in 2016, he was blindsided.
“We have discussed divorce. It wasn’t something that I wanted. But it is something that I believe she thinks she needs. And honestly, I wish we could have made the public announcement jointly,” he told Uptown in a statement at the time.
Keshia Knight Pulliam
When Ed Hartwell filed for divorce from Keshia Knight Pulliam after less than a year of marriage in 2016, all while Pulliam was pregnant, she gave a tearful interview to Entertainment Tonight. The Cosby Show star said he made her believe one thing while doing another, including allegedly cheating.
“I love who he pretended to be,” she said at the time. “When he said he wanted our marriage, he wanted our family – I believed him. That’s why I gave him this one last chance, only for him to pull the rug from under me and blindside me.”
After 20 years of marriage and two children, word was that Oscar-winning acting legend Robert DeNiro’s decision to file for divorce was a shock to wife Grace Hightower. A source close told Radar Online that she didn’t see the 2018 filing coming.
“She was blindsided. As of a few weeks ago, everything seemed fine.”
When former NBA star and coach Derek Fisher served wife Candace Fisher divorce papers in 2015, she said in court documents that not only did he blindside her with the filing, but he also moved all of his things out of their home in the middle of the night and stopped answering her calls and text for weeks. The couple have four kids together.
As the story went, per reports, singer Mashonda was shocked when Swizz Beatz carried on a relationship with Alicia Keys while they were still married. They had been married for four years and had one son together when the famed producer ended their marriage in 2008 and moved on with Keys. Mashonda claimed she asked Keys to “step back and let me handle my family issues” while they were still working on their marriage, to no avail.
Sources claimed that rapper Wiz Khalifa was blindsided when Amber Rose filed for divorce from him in 2014, despite cheating allegations against him that reportedly were true.
“He didn’t get served until the news came out, so he was blindsided by the divorce filing,” a HollywoodLife source stated. “It all stems from a recent argument.”
It’s rare that you get to see people be blindsided by a divorce. It was certainly a shock to all when during Season 9 of Married at First Sight, Keith Manley said he wanted out of his marriage to Iris Caldwell after giving the impression that perhaps they were going to go the distance.
“So, for the first phase of our separation, it was really hard y’all. Like, I was growing in emotions with this guy and thinking about our future and babies,” she said on her Instagram. “And to have all that ripped from me, was really, really hard, but I have definitely healed a lot since then and there’s been a lot of time. So, I’m good.”