Ask a Very Smart Brotha Live: High School Sweethearts & Love Languages

Chelsea: Hello…Why is it that guys loose interest in me so fast? From my experience guys approach me and the first thing they will say is I’m Hot, pretty whatever,(I don’t dress provocative in case you were wondering haha) and second they will ask me on a date, which I always decline because I’m not ready for that right now. I usually start talking to these guys on the phone, email, Facebook, and then I feel like they seem fine enough or I’m comfortable enough to go out with them, and I start being more open more of myself. The issue seems to be, after a while these guys start saying things like I’m weird, I’m strange for a Black girl. I might be goofy, shy but none of that. So why do they loose interest. (Sorry so long = )

D.Y.: Well, maybe you are weird and strange, lol.Thing is, “weird” and “strange” are relative terms, and perhaps you’re a bit quirkier than what those guys are used to. This isn’t a bad thing. In fact, it’s good that guys who probably won’t be long term matches for you are weeding themselves out. You just have to be patient and keep your eyes open for a compatible (and equally quirky) potential mate.