Dealing with older children
Stepparents to teenagers who’ve lost a parent will experience the upside and the downside of this fact: older children can communicate. That means they’ll let you know what they’re feeling in clear terms, including when those feelings about the new stepparent are not very positive. “If the child is in their teen years, they are better communicators but still the parent will need to explore the feelings. Teens may not attach themselves immediately and therefore the step-parent will need to present as a friend rather a parent to create connection. This also applies to an adult child,” Moore explains.