A need to control
There should be a healthy amount of freedom in any type of relationship. We should be happy when those we claim to love do things that make them happy. But if our tendency is to see the friends of our friends, or the friends of our partner, as threats, that is a sign of an internal issue – not an external one. Matthews says if “you are jealous of your partner’s friends, family, and social activities…you disapprove of everything and you want to control every aspect of your partner’s life,” you have some things to work through. It might be hard to identify the feeling as jealousy when you’ve disguised it under all the judgment. But you know deep down if and when you act out out of jealousy.