Times Boundaries Are Hard To Set With Family, But Important

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Ultimately, you’re helping them

Shutting out a relative who needs a place to stay after her umpteenth breakup that year can feel cold, but taking her in each time isn’t helping her.

“It can feel mean but at the same time you’re teaching them a new skill set,” Jackson states. “If all of their family members and friends set these boundaries, at some point, a lightbulb should go off in their head like ‘Wow…nobody is really giving into me. So maybe the mirror needs to be placed upon myself.’ It can be great to band together with friends and family to come up with a consistent plan, like ‘When she calls, we are all going to say no.’ That will allow that person to fend for themselves. It also teaches problem-solving skills. She sees, ‘I’m in this pickle, nobody is here to help me. How can I get out of this on my own?’”

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