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People pleasing is a way of life that many conform to in childhood. As a result, trying to break free from your eager-to-please ways once you are well into adulthood can be deeply challenging. There are often underlying issues such as low self-esteem and fear of abandonment that drive people pleasers, and pivoting from this lifestyle requires serious self-work, self-awareness and sometimes even therapy. Turning over a new leaf is hard, but it’s worth it because of the reward that awaits at the finish line: a better quality of life. Here are all of the ways your life changes when you adopt a more assertive attitude and stop offering yourself up as a doormat.

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Your stress levels are reduced

Psychology Today defines stress as having more demands than you can handle and trying to be all things to all people at all times will definitely get you there. However, something magical happens when you’re able to assert yourself and you learn the power of no. Most of those demands begin to disappear.

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