Times Boundaries Are Hard To Set With Family, But Important

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Boundaries are for the both of you

Jackson reminds us that setting boundaries is not only for our own mental wellbeing but also for the betterment of the other person.

“If we don’ set boundaries and let them do whatever they want, they can be detrimental to us, to themselves, to the family, to the community,” Jackson says. “We are enabling that behavior. That person is not going to realize something is wrong if someone gives in every time.” And trying to fix things for them every time, rather than having them work it out on their own (which can include seeking professional help when applicable), can damage your sanity. “I’ve seen people get to the point where they just don’t care. They do care but they’re tired of caring. Sometimes people allow their family members to do whatever they want to do because they’re just done fighting. They’re physically and mentally exhausted,” she says. “I’ve even worked with a caregiver who was literally questioning her own sanity…her family member was gaslighting her so much.”