Times Boundaries Are Hard To Set With Family, But Important
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Dealing with family who always needs money
Many families have that one member who can’t hold down a job, spends every dollar that comes their way, and is somehow perpetually broke, very much due to their own bad habits. So they come to family and ask for money, or for a job, or for a referral. Jackson advises, “Verbalize your thoughts and feelings. If this person has a bad reputation of ruining jobs or not being a good referral, whatever the case may be, we have to find a gentle way to break that down to them instead of avoiding it. You can say, ‘I would love to refer you but I noticed the last three jobs I referred you to you got fired from, so that made me look bad. I don’t feel good giving you any recommendations any longer.’ That person probably isn’t going to take that well but that’s also not your problem.”
