Why do people hesitate to meet up?
It can be confusing – not to mention frustrating – when someone shows immense interest in you via hundreds of text messages, but then pulls away when you ask for an IRL meetup. You can wonder what they actually wanted out of those communications. “Sometimes the need is being met for them through texting. They can feel that somebody wants them. Or, people get caught up in the fantasy,” Hoffman says. “When you stay online, the fantasy can exist. But they can fear ‘I don’t know if we’ll have chemistry in real life. If we stay online, we can stay in this fantasy.’”