How long will this drag on?
I hate to admit that I was once stuck in the texting phase, stubbornly waited for the guy to move things along and did another three weeks of texting before realizing it was never going to happen. He had no incentive to put in more effort, as I wasn’t giving him one. “People will waste as much of your time as you’ll allow them to have,” says Hoffman. “I tell clients, no more than three exchanges before moving onto the next phase. I’m a big fan of the phone call. A lot of people skip that. But it’s more important in the pandemic because you don’t necessarily have an in-person date to lead up to. So if the FaceTime or Zoom date is the date, if you don’t have anything in between, there is no anticipation that can be built.”