The Deal With “Self-Partnering”
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Julia Austin
Self-partnering can lead to unrealistic demands
When you do choose to self-partner, it can put you in a headspace of, “Well, another partner must be perfect, because they have to live up to…me.” But Dr. Louis says this can lead to someone “Having an unattainable list – a laundry list of things this person [a partner] must meet. Like, he must make this much money, must look like this…this list of things nobody can meet. And in some cases, sometimes this person themselves doesn’t even meet this criteria. They can say ‘This person needs to make this amount’ but they don’t even have a job. It’s setting them up for disappointment because they want something that is not realistic just based on the current reality.”
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