Focus on facts over feelings
While your feelings may be, “I’m not safe” or “It’s happening again,” focusing on the facts of the relationship and the situation might chase those thoughts away. “Figure out what it is that is upsetting you. Is what the person did really the issue, or is it what it reminded you of? It may also be helpful to challenge the negative thoughts you have by reminding yourself of what is true, or what you do know about the relationship,” says Madison.