He has a lot on his plate
So you haven’t voiced your needs. You’ve let him miss your office party, your big presentation, lunch with your parents while they were in town, and your friend’s birthday party. Because he’s under water. Maybe he’s got stressful stuff happening in his family or at his work. Okay well…do you abandon him when your life gets stressful? Probably not. You don’t just get to take a break from being a partner.