He’s going through a hard time
So he has mood swings. He says mean and cold things to you. He isn’t there for you. He isn’t listening to you. Everything is about him—about attending to his mood swings and keeping him in a good place. So, the thing about that, is that he’s a grown*ss man who has to know how to handle what he’s going through while still being a support system to you—rather than being a big baby.