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Codependency issues are much more widespread than you may think. They’re very easy for people to hide—especially serial monogamists or people who always live with several roommates. We don’t know how these individuals would react to being alone because they never are. But, often that was a calculated choice on their part because they know they’re codependent. Being codependent is far more damaging to our lives than we realize, though. If you’re codependent, then you’re not a free agent—you never get to make a decision based solely on what you want or what’s best for you. Every decision you make is made with the desire to impress, satisfy, or at least appease other people—all so they’ll stick around. Literally, like, around four or five feet away from you. When you can get rid of your codependency issues, you’re free. You’re independent, and you get your life back. Here are baby steps to reducing codependency.

codependency no more

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Tell people you’re working on it

First, tell those who are close to you that you’re working on this. It’s important that they know, so that they don’t accidentally enable you and so that they can support you in this goal. Next time you ask a friend to go with you to get your hair cut, she’ll say, “I think it’s best you do that alone.”

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