“If someone is emotionally mature, they will present as a good thinker and problem solver in the relationship,” and “A person who is emotionally mature will try to understand your love language, the way you like to give and receive love, and will aim to deliver love to you in your preferred language but also express to you how you can show your love for them.”
Like with many of the things you’re trying to accomplish in your life, you may find, as time becomes more and more limited, the trick is working smarter not harder. And that’s the same for showing your partner he or she is a priority.
When they say that “Marriage is hard work” they often leave out the part, “But it’s so worth it. And it’s fun work, too.” That’s how it should feel in a good marriage. Here are ways to feel more in love with your spouse each day.
Laughing together actually means that you have similar intelligence levels—all sorts of intelligences. It means you share a similar emotional IQ, as well as general intelligence about the world. If you share a sense of humor, you likely have a lot more in common emotionally and mentally.
On the rare occasion that you do fight, it ends quickly. You can typically squash it and get back to feeling totally affectionate and playful within 48 hours. That’s just how strong your connection is, and how much you both genuinely want to get back to getting along.
You must step away from most social engagements to have an argument outside. You may even leave a lot of social occasions early—important ones, like your best friend’s birthday dinner—to fight.
Maybe you have something you’re actually really excited about—a milestone, an accomplishment, a big deal. Your partner should know about that, too. Give him the chance to pick up a bottle of wine or something special for that night. Set him up to succeed
When you have just had a rough day and need to blast Lady Gaga and dance around your apartment, your partner pulls up Pandora for you. And he doesn’t care that the rather macho neighbor lifting weights hears it.
When you do finally get to be together, you actually cherish that time. Couples who have nothing but time together wind up not really appreciating any of the time they spend alone.
When you really love your partner, you want a little affection first thing in the morning—your partner’s snuggles energize you for the day. You don’t hop out of bed without them.
In life, you tend to get the things you believe you deserve. Whether it’s the type of jobs, friends or romantic partners you have, you attract the quality that you think you deserve. And why shouldn’t you? If it doesn’t seem like you believe you should have that great promotion, why should your boss think […]
Relationships are like energy; they need to keep moving. It’s impossible for a relationship to stay exactly the same because life doesn’t stay exactly the same, and neither do you. Relationships either grow stale, become combative, and dissolve, or they grow stronger, become happier, and evolve. If you think every relationship becomes boring over time, […]