You keep your coworkers and your partner separate
Perhaps at work you’re a ball-buster, unemotional, abrasive and intimidating, and at home, you’re nothing but sweet, gentle, demure and kind of a pushover. You can’t let your partner see that intimidating side of you, because you’re afraid it would scare him off. You can’t let your coworkers see the sweet side of you, because they may not respect you. But the truth is that people respect you the most if you can balance both those sides of yourself—the gentle and the tough—in all situations.