TMI: Are Some Things Better Left Unsaid in Relationships?
8. A past pregnancy that didn’t result in parenting.
A pregnancy that didn’t result in a woman actively parenting can be a tremendous burden to bear alone. Miscarriages, abortions and adoptions are heavy conversations that aren’t just had with any casual partner and it could be a part of woman’s past that she may not want to revisit for many reasons. In some cases, talking about it may actually help her process her feelings in a healthy way as long as she feels supported, listened to and doesn’t feel judged. While an adoption is something that could possibly be a future issue in a long-term relationship, miscarriages and abortion that are properly handled and treated in most situations have no effect on future pregnancies. It’s truly up to each woman’s individual judgment to choose whether or not to reveal this part of their past to a partner, and if so, when is the best time to do so.
Toya Sharee is a community health educator who has a passion for helping young women build their self-esteem and make well-informed choices about their sexual health. She also advocates for women’s reproductive rights and blogs about everything from beauty to love and relationships. Follow her on Twitter @TheTrueTSharee.
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