Men need to make the first move
Let me explain one thing. When being interviewed by Cosmo, Glamour or Essence magazine, men generally lie. They get into the “what would sound good coming out of my mouth,” when a female editor hovers near. At least, that is my strongest theory considering that these women mags always repeat untruths spoken by the part-time model/actor they catch in the streets of Manhattan.
Here’s the truth: men like to hunt. I can see so many of you rolling your eyes, ready to throw back examples of how being pro-active worked for you but let me ask you something: do you still have that guy? When it comes to non-White men (Caucasians are more liberal), their commitment is also influenced by how hard they had to work for you. If you gave in too easily or if you approached him first, chances are that he subconciously won’t feel like the victor, making it easier for him to let go in the end. What can we say, men are animals and they need to feel like they earned a prize.