10 Things We Learned From Iyanla And The Man With 34 Kids

Focusing on the Women

Iyanla spent a lot of time meeting with some of the mothers of Jay’s children. This seemed odd to me initially but they were dealing with their own issues. There were the former friends who each gave birth to children from Jay. There were women who still believed Jay would change one day and be there for them and their children. And there was one woman who was trying to decide if she should tell her child that Jay was his father. Iyanla spent so much time with them because she had been in their shoes. She had a man raising children who weren’t biologically his. And she had to eventually tell her children the truth. And they resented her for it. Iyanla told them towards the end of the show that she made sure to spend so much time empowering them because they were all the primary caregivers of the children.