Letting His Children Go
In part two, Jay met with four of his older children. And it was devastating to watch. First his children admitted that it was just too late for him to try and establish any type of relationship. They suggested he reach out to his younger children. Jay, finally being held accountable, tried to claim that he had done things for them, financially, that a lot of fathers wouldn’t do. Iyanla had to let him know that he wouldn’t receive brownie points for doing what any father should. The segment with the children ended with Iyanla asking Jay if he loved his children enough to let them go. I had a hard time grasping this concept. But basically, now that they are adults, they have a choice about whether they’ll have a relationship with him. It’s no longer his choice and instead of forcing himself on them, if they don’t want to have a relationship, he needs to respect that enough to leave them alone.