How to Turn “Maybes” Into “Yes” in Relationships

5) Maybe he’ll commit

You’ve been dating for awhile and it’s getting to the point where you no longer have the strength to refer to your love interest as “the guy I am seeing.”  “The Talk about Titles” can be a very stressful and intimidating event for a man because many believe once you give something a name it’s proof that you care.  Many men will attempt to completely avoid it, while others would call their Blackberry their girlfriend if it cooked, cleaned and smelled nice.  So how can you tell if he’s ready to make you the only one?  Consider timing.  If it’s only been 3 weeks into the relationship, more than likely he won’t be willing to give you your own drawer.  When a man is ready to commit he’ll also begin to open up about his future plans, and even better include you in them.  He may even begin to show more of an interest in what’s important to you.  The best thing you can do is not make a big issue out of it.  Be honest from the beginning (with him as well as yourself) if you’re looking for a relationship.  Trust your gut if it’s a year later and you feel the situation has made zero progress.  Keep in mind that while labels make it easier for everyone ELSE to make sense of your situation, only you and your partner truly understand what you both share.  Focus on the important things: your happiness, if he treats you well and what you both agree works for your situation.