Change Clothes: Can You Go From “Friends With Benefits” to “Wifey”?
6. Be Confident, Not Needy
It can be argued that one of the best attributes to have is confidence, and men and women alike find confidence to be attractive. Men and women can smell desperation a mile away, and if you come across as dependent on your FWB situation, it can be easy to be taken advantage of. So take a look at yourself and think about all the wonderful things you have to offer – not just to him – but to any man. If you haven’t showcased the best of you and what you bring to the table, he may not see you as an asset or a mate, he may just see you as a woman who is willing to settle for any situation presented to you. Now is the time for you to re-package yourself and change the message you’re sending. Emphasize your assets, know your worth and reclaim your power. If he begins to view you differently, then great! But if not, nothing lost. You can’t make someone love you, so ultimately it’s out of your hands anyway – all you can do is take control of the image you want to convey to any man who may be looking. Don’t make desperate attempts to manipulate the man you want into loving you, because you shouldn’t have to convince anyone that you’re worthy of a committed relationship. You’ll find that once you start realizing your true worth, the outcome won’t even matter…and it’s usually upon that realization that you wind up getting exactly what you want.