Change Clothes: Can You Go From “Friends With Benefits” to “Wifey”?

4. Date Someone Else

Sometimes people don’t realize what they have until it’s gone…or until someone else wants it. That may signal immaturity, but if the arrangement you two have has been working and he doesn’t feel threatened, he may not feel the need to commit because he knows you’re not going anywhere. Sometimes it takes someone else to show him what he might be missing if he doesn’t snatch you up, so instead of hooking up with your FWB on Saturday night, tell him you have a date with a guy you just met and you’ll catch up with him whenever. He may try to play it off and wish you fun on your date, but if he’s shaken, you’ll be able to tell. Now, if he’s seeing someone else, this may backfire on you, but at least you’ll know where you stand. And who knows, if you start dating other guys, you may find one that is REALLY interested in a real relationship, not just a sexual one…and your FWB will be history. Dating someone else may be just what you need to show you that you deserve to be with someone who wants ALL of you, not just your body.