Change Clothes: Can You Go From “Friends With Benefits” to “Wifey”?
2. Walk Away
If you truly want to see where things stand, become scarce. You may not need to fall of the grid completely, but the less available you are, the more desirable you may become. Let’s face it, the dynamic you two have built is comfortable for him, but it is no longer comfortable for you – so shake things up. When he calls for a hookup, don’t answer, or text him back saying that you have plans or can’t make it that night. This may seem like you’re playing games, but the only way you can truly gauge his interest is to not be at his beck and call and see how he responds. Men love a chase, and he can’t chase you if you’re always there or don’t give him the space to chase you. Men chase what they want, and if there is a bit of mystery there, that may make him see you in a different light or make you more attractive to him in a way that isn’t purely sexual. If he doesn’t seem to miss you, well then you know he’s not really checking for you like that. But if it drives him crazy that he can’t talk to his best girl for a few days, perhaps there are deeper feelings there than even he realizes.