Timing Is Everything: Sometimes It’s Best Not To Get Involved

When they or you are about to move

Why put yourself through it? You hit it off with somebody, have a magical weekend together, and then they tell you, “I’m actually moving across the country for work next month.” Could this be the love of your life with whom you should pursue an expensive and emotionally difficult long-distance relationship that won’t actually give you a real glimpse of what being with them would look like because long-distance relationships are sort of fairytale ones? Could it be? Um…sure. Maybe. There’s a teeny, tiny possibility. But it is important to be aware of the pitfalls of long-distance love. It is, in fact, quite difficult to assess how you operate as a couple, in real life, when your only time together is essentially spent on vacation. Many individuals put years and thousands of dollars into these relationships only to eventually realize, “Oh, we’re not happy when we live and work in the same city. We’re just happy meeting up at Marriotts on three-day weekends.”