Timing Is Everything: Sometimes It’s Best Not To Get Involved

When they’re recovering from grief

Not that you were wondering, but in case you were: a funeral might not be the best place to pick up a date. At least not if that date was close to the deceased. If you meet and hit it off with someone who just lost somebody to whom they were close, they may not be in a good place to launch a relationship. They may think they are. They may insist that they are. But, grief has a way of making one not quite sure what they need. Grief makes someone grasp at any sort of comfort or distraction. And you could accidentally become just that – a comfort or distraction. But once someone is over their grief, the comfort or distraction may no longer be…required. It’s also just difficult to start a relationship when one person will need so much more attention/affection than the other. New relationships should be fairly balanced two-way streets. Again, if you’re with someone for a long time and then they suffer a loss, of course the relationship will be about them for a while. But that’s a tough way to establish a new relationship.