When did everything have to become a whole weekend? When did every birthday start to require travel? Can’t we just have lunch and cake? Nope. Everybody wants everybody to go with them for a weekend in wine tasting country or to a beach house on the coast or to a ski cabin in the mountains. Judith is turning 40, so get ready to spend 20 percent of what’s in your savings account on her birthday. How are the budget-conscious lot of us supposed to keep up with the expectation that every birthday now calls for a hotel room and a train ticket?