LisaRaye Can Relate To Tisha Campbell Because She Too Left Her Marriage With Nothing: “Sometimes You Walk Away Because You Deserve Your Peace”

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LisaRaye says it’s a shame that Tisha Campbell said when she divorced Duane Martin she left with $7, but it’s not a surprise because she too has been there.

The 53-year-old opened up on Cocktails With Queens about how she was so ready to be done with the drama of being married to and trying to divorce ex-husband Michael Misick, the former premier of Turks and Caicos, that she left with just about nothing. So when co-host Vivica A. Fox inquired as to how Campbell, with a career spanning more than 30 years, could end up with only $7 after more than 20 years of marriage, LisaRaye said she could understand.

“That’s the part to me that’s so unfortunate because I can identify with that part,” she said. “I was like Tina Turner. I was like, ‘I just want to leave with my name.’ You know what I mean? I’m just gon’ start all over. To some people it’s like ‘What? You were in a marriage and he had more than you and you helped him get even more than that and you all were together and building together at least for a couple of years. Don’t you deserve something?’ But sometimes you walk away because you deserve your peace. So for me, as I was fighting, fighting and it became more and more expensive, and more and more of my time and more and more of my peace, then it was like, you know what? It’s very obvious that I have to start over. I was in Turks and Caicos, so I was over there with different rules and different laws and stuff. Coming back over here, it was clear that I had left my career. So to me, it’s very clear that Tisha has had a huge career, and it’s very clear to me as well that she made her own money and the bulk of the money, which helped them as a family. So for her to walk away with $7, something was wrong, whether it was with the attorney, or that he was smarter or sharper or sneakier or conniving-er or — y’all get the point. So for her to have kids and say, ‘Have at it,’ that speaks to the type of woman that she is because she rised above it and said, ‘It’s cool. I’m talented, I know I’m talented and I know that I can make more money. You have at it. Keep it. If that’s going to get you off my a– then go ahead,’ and that’s what she did.”

Campbell said in a recent interview with Entertainment Tonight’s Kevin Frazier that when she and Martin divorced, she basically had nothing financially.

“No one knows that but I had nothing,” she said tearing up. “Nothing in the bank. Nothing. I had maybe $7 to my name and I was scared. It was like I was starting all over.”

As for LisaRaye, she and Misick were married from 2006 to 2008 and had a contentious divorce. It came at a time when he was accused of corruption while premier for the Turks and Caicos. She did say in an interview with Essence in 2009 following the divorce that she was trying to get back to work after leaving behind acting (and the money that came with it) for three years to be Misick’s first lady.

Honestly, I feel great. I’m back down to my TV-size and ready to do what I’ve been missing for the last three years,” she said. “I gained that weight because I wasn’t in Hollywood and didn’t have to be so concerned with my weight and was constantly entertaining all the time, eating peas & rice and just being an island girl. Now, I’m back to being the LisaRaye that does television, movies, hosting and sharing my story in hopes to help someone else.” 

Hit the flip to see photos of LisaRaye and Misick from happier times during their marriage, and to learn more about what life with him was like from out of the star’s own mouth.

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Though LisaRaye said she opted against fighting for money from Misick, she initially did want what she felt was owed to her.

“In April, my divorce was granted to me, but I’m still fighting for a settlement,” she told Essence in 2009. “I don’t understand why he wants to make the attorneys richer by keeping this thing going. He needs to focus on the political fight he has ahead of him and give me what I’m due. I don’t want his money, only the money I contributed to the marriage.”

IRELAND ISLAND NORTH, BERMUDA – OCTOBER 5: First Lady of Turks & Caicos LisaRaye Misick and Chief Minister Hon. Dr. Michael Misick (of the Turks And Caicos Islands attend BERMUDA MUSIC FESTIVAL 2006-Day 2 at The Dockyard on October 5, 2006 in Ireland Island North, Bermuda. (Photo by Joe Schildhorn/Patrick McMullan.com/Patrick McMullan via Getty Images)

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The actress wouldn’t have been able to get any money directly from Misick as they went through their divorce because they had a prenup in place. As she said, though, she wasn’t seeking his money, but money from what she was able to help bring to the Turks and Caicos Islands.

“No, we had a prenup. But what I am owed will have to wait. The country is still going through so much so everything has been pushed back as they conduct investigations, make arrests. Tourism, which generated a lot of revenue, has suffered greatly,” she told Black Enterprise in 2011.

LisaRaye McCoy and Michael Misick (Photo by Bruce Gifford/FilmMagic)

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LisaRaye said a major misconception about her that came from her years with Misick is that she was with him for money.

“The one that I had to address was the idea that I am a ghetto gold digger. I did not grow up in the ghetto. I might have driven by the ghetto, but wasn’t raised there,” she told Black Enterprise. “Now what people see in me is an urban girl who is real and they identify with on some level. If speaking my mind unapologetically and honestly is considered ghetto then so be it. Regarding the gold digger label, when I said I’d been digging for gold since high school and I’m digging for platinum now I simply mean that every man and woman wants to be with a winner. What’s important is that a woman and a man stand alone in spirit so when they come together they are powerful.”

Caribbean island’s chief minister Michael Misick and Lisa Raye at the Georgia World Congress Center in Atlanta, Georgia (Photo by Moses Robinson/WireImage)

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It took about a year after the divorce for LisaRaye to feel like she made peace with everything.

“I’m not afraid to admit that after all that happened during my marriage and divorce that I was feeling a little lost,” she told Black Enterprise. “I had to call on a higher power to help me figure things out and I am happy to say that I’m in a good place. Before I’d get angry every time I thought about it. After a year, I’m able to talk to Michael and appreciate the man he was to me because he gave me the best of the best in the beginning.”

Honorable Michael E. Misick, Premier of Turks and Caicos and First Lady LisaRaye Misick (Photo by Rebecca Sapp/WireImage)

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On Cocktails With Queens, the actress says a regret she had in regards to their relationship was marrying Misick for the wrong reasons.

“It was the potential of falling in love, but I should have been in that before the marriage,” she said. “The dream he sold me was, ‘I want to date you in our marriage.’ I had never heard of that before and I was thinking, that’s kind of clever! And we’re going towards that way anyway, so okay. We can accomplish what we’re trying to accomplish sooner in a partnership. In a partnership. A partnership is what I thought I was getting into.”

Michael Misick and LisaRaye McCoy (Photo by Malcolm Ali/WireImage)

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She said that because she didn’t marry for love, the desire to work through things with Misick when things got very rocky was not there.

“Then I got in there and sh-t changed and switched and it was like, ‘Who are you?’ I’m sure he asked who am I as well,” she said. “But if you have that love, that foundation, then you can weather a storm that you wouldn’t necessarily weather…I would have stayed a little longer if my heart was involved. It wasn’t there.”

TURKS AND CAICOS ISLANDS, BWI – DECEMBER 8: Dr. Michael E. Misick (The Premier of Turks and Caicos) and First Lady Lisaraye McCoy-Misick attend Cocktail Party hosted by The Premier of Turks and Caicos, MICHAEL E. MISICK for The O Property Collection DELLIS CAY Preview Weekend at The Home of Premier Michael E. Misick on December 8, 2007 in Turks and Caicos Islands, BWI. (Photo by BILLY FARRELL/Patrick McMullan via Getty Images)

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Infidelity was a big issue in the couple’s marriage according to the actress. She actually accused former reality TV personality Nicole Murphy of pushing up on Misick when they were married, which Murphy denied. But she said another star who was a major detriment to her marriage was Duane Martin, Tisha Campbell’s ex.

“He became disrespectful with introducing my husband to different women and women that we actually knew as friends and associates,” she said in her TV One Uncensored episode.

“I introduced you to him. What are you doing? I’m still kind of confused about that one,” she added. “So needless to say, me and Duane don’t f–k with each other at all. F–k him. F–k him.”

LOS ANGELES, CA – SEPTEMBER 23: Actress LisaRaye and husban Premiere of the Turks and Caicos Island Dr. Michael E. Misick arrive at her “Studio 40” Birthday Bash on September 23, 2007 at the Beverly Hills Hotel in Berverly Hills, California. (Photo by Maury Phillips/WireImage)

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After she divorced Misick, there were people who had less than positive things to say about LisaRaye when she said she helped to turn the Turks and Caicos Islands around for the better. She stood by her comments after some backlash online.

“As their first lady, I brought a lot of attention to Turks and Caicos Island. But that’s what I planned to do and that’s what I wanted to do,” she said. “I brought the film festival there. I built a theater there. I brought the first ever carnival there, music festival. Calling my friends saying, hey, we may not have it in the budget to pay your fee, but if I can make a vacation out of it for you because I’m the first lady of this small country, and I want to shed some light on here, can you bring your talent over here so you can entertain our people?”

“I still feel that is a second home for me, so I will always be the poster child for Turks and Caicos Islands because it’s beautiful and because I called it home and I do want everyone to see it and know about it because they should,” she added. “It’s right next door to us. So that’s what I said and that’s exactly, again, what I mean.”

First Lady LisaRaye Misick and Premier of Turks & Caicos Michael Misick (Photo by Rick Diamond/WireImage)

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The beauty said she’s open to marrying again in the future.

“Some of the things I’m looking for in a potential mate is definitely a God-fearing man, because I think he needs to lead his family in that way,” she told us earlier this year. “I want him to be not only the provider and king of our family but I also want him to be the leader of our family in God’s name. So that’s number one. I want him to be generous. And when I say generous, I mean generous with his feelings. Not to hide behind his feelings. Generous with his conversation so we can communicate. Generous financially. Generous with family because I’m a family-oriented person. He needs to be a businessman because I’m a businesswoman and I want us to grow together financially healthy. I’m also attracted to knowledge, and for me, that’s where the power is and the sex appeal of a man to me. When you’re rooted in business and you’re smart and knowledgeable, I’m like, wow, teach me, show me, tell me. That’s a turn on for me. But it won’t be a turn on if you’re so business where you’re boring or where you don’t share your wealth. And I need him to have swag and to have fun. Not to take himself so serious where he’s in a box. I need him to have eyes for me only. I’m older now. I don’t have time to be playing. I don’t want to be a notch on your belt. I want us to grow in love and just grow so we can do the things in life that’s left to do that maybe he hasn’t done and I haven’t done, that we can share together.”

LisaRaye McCoy and Michael Misick during 2007 Cannes Film Festival – Palisades Pictures Party: A Salute to Independent Pictures at Private Residence in Cannes, France. (Photo by Jesse Grant/WireImage)

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Whomever she deals with next, LisaRaye doesn’t want them to be anything like her ex, because as she shared with Honey magazine in 2010, it was a very messy situation.

“He had a child within our marriage with the same baby’s mother that he had his first child with, which I did know about. When a woman feels something is going on we go into that investigative mode. And when I did that, I got all of my ducks in a row and I brought it to him and said what is this all about? He explained it to me. I said to myself, ‘Is this worth me breaking up my new marriage for?’ It was deceitful but it wasn’t worth me breaking up my marriage at the time,” she said at the time. But then things became too complicated for her with more infidelity, including rumors that Misick was canoodling with TV host Rocsi Diaz.

“I had to think if I trusted him. Trust is a building process. So while we are trying to build the trust, so many things were happening with affairs and the corruption of governmental funds and then the Rocsi thing.”

Safe to say, the trust was never repaired.

Premier Dr. Michael E. Misick and First Lady LisaRaye Misick attend the opening night reception of Turks and Caicos International Film Festival at Grace Bay on October 16, 2007 in Turks and Caicos. (Photo by John Shearer/WireImage)

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