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Meka and Michael

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There is plenty that can be said about the recommitment episode of Married at First Sight last night, but what stuck out to me most throughout the episode, or really, the last few episodes actually, is how much it’s written all over Meka‘s face that she can’t stand Michael. Whether he’s anally trimming their plant or stumbling over his words to, allegedly, give her an anniversary trip to Jamaica, she’s critical of Michael, not only in terms of her disposition, but also openly in the way she addresses him.

I can agree that in order for their marriage to work, she is going to have ease up on some of the obvious annoyance (even in his corny moments she looks over it). However, I have to admit that I was confused as to why Dr. Viviana Coles asked her about whether or not she’s a “safe space to land” for Michael. Sure, we should all be kind to our spouses and allow them to know they have our support and understanding. But how does one soften up and be nicer and change their overall reaction to someone who lies about things, big and small, all the time?

Honestly, I found it unfair that a lot of the focus was on how she could be more vulnerable to him so that he could stop telling stories. Wouldn’t he need to come to terms with why he’s lying so much first? Her energy, since the honeymoon, has been based on his actions, and yet, he makes her seem like the coldest woman ever. The man literally lied when he told Pastor Cal that Meka never really initiated vulnerable conversations. We’ve watched her try and start conversations with him, asking him in what specific ways he needed her to be more vulnerable, which in frustration, he literally got up and walked away from.

I imagine it is hard enough to make the decision to be committed, no matter what, to being married to a stranger. How the hell can one be confident enough to maintain that commitment if they can’t trust anything that comes out of their partner’s mouth? I was able to see the importance in Meka moving on from whether or not Michael said sex was a necessity on the way to their honeymoon, but he’s lied about being a yoga instructor. He’s switched jobs without telling Meka. He won’t show her a pay stub to ensure that he makes what he says he does. Everything is a secret, or a flat-out lie, to the point that she struggles to believe anything he says and because of that, looks how she feels — disinterested. And instead of just owning that his stories are a problem, Michael blames it all on struggling to open up to someone who doesn’t make him feel comfortable; that and the fact that he was adopted — by his aunt — after his mother gave him up as a kid. That goes back to my point about experts needing to ensure people go through therapy early on in the process. He’s got some deeper issues that the experts clearly didn’t know anything about, because all they can tell him is to be honest and tell her to give him a chance to do so. Overall, it just feels like plenty of concessions have been made to handle Michael with baby gloves, while Meka has been asked to be sweeter to him so that he can open up and they can turn things around. But anyone with sense knows that if it weren’t for the confines of being in an actual marriage on TV and simply not wanting to get a divorce they’ll have to forever explain, no one would stick around to develop a relationship with and be a “safe space to land” for a habitual fibber.

Hit the flip to see all the reactions people have to Meka and Michael’s relationship issues and share your thoughts.

I wasn’t the only person taken aback by Dr. Viviana’s request that Meka be a bit nicer to Michael. “Meka is a tough person there is nothing wrong with that!” a Twitter user commented. “I would have my guards up to [sic] if my husband kept lying about his life….”

One Twitter commenter was so fed up with Michael’s stories that she changed his name to “Liechael.”
“The basis of Meka & Liechael’s counseling is the experts asking her how she responds to the lies and not finding out why he’s lying in the first place.” I see no lies there.

A Twitter user asked, “Michael whyyy would Meka be vulnerable to a pathological liar….like come on now?!”
Another user said they believe his definition of “vulnerable” is really pertaining to sex.
“Michael is basically saying the only way he’ll be honest is if Meka has sex with him…”

What do you say?

During the episode, Meka shared with Dr. Viviana that she asked Michael to share with her his pay stub to ensure that not only does he get paid what he says he does, but to also have peace of mind about where he works. He wouldn’t show her. Twitter users were not happy with that.

But Dr. Viviana isn’t the only one who felt that Meka could be a softer “space to land” for Michael. There have been people online who have remarked that her faces and disposition would make them be closed off as well. However, a number of people had her back. Like this commenter.

Despite the couple’s decision to continue on trying to be committed to their marriage, those watching couldn’t help but notice that they just don’t have good chemistry and don’t seem to enjoy being in each other’s company. They literally had an awkward moment after meeting up with the experts because they struggle to communicate so much.

People on Twitter joked about Meka’s facial expressions when dealing with Michael and his eccentricities. “Vivianna wants Meka to soften up but her facial expressions tell it all lol,” someone commented. “There’s no part of me that thinks this relationship is gonna work. They’re just going through the motions at this point.”

People aren’t buying that Michael won’t continue lying. Some even believe that there is more to him than meets the eye that Meka should be worried about.
“Y’all, the more I watch Michael, the more I get scared for Meka,” a commenter shared. “Something’s not right with that dude. Not just the lying, but…yeah…he’s not right.”

In the end, most people felt like Meka needs to be cut the slack, not Michael.
“When Pastor Cal has to ask Michael if hes telling the truth, Meka shouldn’t have to answer a question abt her commitment,” a Twitter user shared. “They keep gaslighting her as if she’s coming up short. Where is her ‘safe place to land’?”

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