You want to make her happy, now and then
This entire time, throughout the wedding planning, you are torn between your desire to make her happy right now—to say yes to her requests for the bridal shower and to get excited about the bachelorette party—and your desire to make sure she’s happy forever. And you feel that those two realities cannot coexist. If you say yes to her throughout this wedding planning, then you’re pushing her towards an unhappy marriage. If you don’t do whatever she asks to help this wedding move forward, you’ll make her upset now, but you feel it’s all so she can be happy in the future (by calling this off).