My partner and I are guilty of playing the, “Whose fault is it that we haven’t had sex in a while?” blame game from time to time. I don’t want to have that argument. I know—from firsthand experience—that it never goes anywhere good. And yet, it’s almost like a train that can’t be stopped. I’ll just become so frustrated with the fact that we don’t do it as much as we used to, and rather than do something about it (like put on that g-string that he likes or just initiate sex), I’ll instead say, “We never have sex anymore.” And we all know how much that puts everyone in the mood…not. Unfortunately, I’ve probably said that on some nights when my partner had planned on initiating sex, but then my comment just killed the mood. If you fall into the trap of playing the “Why we don’t have sex” blame game, here are reasons to cut that out.
Nobody likes to feel blamed
Nobody likes to feel like they’re getting in trouble for something in the relationship. Even if you are right and your partner is to blame for the dwindling sex life (he always passes out too early or he’s been letting work stress him out so much it kills his libido) he won’t feel turned on while simultaneously feeling slapped on the wrist.