Can I just say that men who do not prioritize their partner’s orgasms just don’t deserve to have sex. They can buy a toy, use their hand, or pay for sex so at least the woman is getting something out of it. But they do not deserve to have intercourse with women who care about them and even love them. I just think it’s so repulsive when men don’t even pay attention to whether or not their partners come close to finishing—and I’ve known a lot of men like this. There were men I dated for years with whom I almost never orgasmed and…they never said a word about it. They never asked about it. They just happily jumped up from bed when they were done, and didn’t acknowledge the fact that I definitely didn’t have the time of my life. Men are spoiled—they don’t struggle to finish. Good men have empathy for women in this department, and make it their job to help their partners finish, rather than be selfish. Here are things a man who cares about your orgasm will do.
Ask if you orgasm
For goodness sake he will ask if you orgasm. After sex, if it’s unclear whether or not you finished, he will ask you. He wants to know. He needs to know. It’s an important part of the post-sex chitchat.